Eye gazing is being used in a new approach to speed dating. I happened upon a couple of websites today that talk about this new dating phenomenon, Eye Gazing Parties.
These events are the brain child of Michael Ellsberg, http://www.eyegazingparties.com/. He wanted to create a way for singles to meet that would be fun, intimate and uplifting. At his eye gazing parties, an even number of men and women gather at a club. “After a fun mini-lesson in the art of eye contact, the group splits into pairs, and each pair spends two minutes looking into each other's eyes, no talking, just soaking in each other's essence through the windows to their soul.” This is followed by social time, when people can talk and see if they want to set up a date.
Tim Ferris, author of the 4-Hour Work Week, recently attended one of these events. read his thoughts and see a vidio clip at: http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2008/02/17/dating-without-speaking-the-weird-world-of-eye-gazing-parties/
The eyes are the windows to the soul. When we gaze deeply into the eyes of another person we can see beyond the physical form and personality into their essence. This can be done as one-on-one, deep meditation practice or by yourself by gazing into a mirror. I have even done this using Skype video with powerful results.
It can also be integrated into your daily life, as a micro-practice by making eye contact and staying present when in a conversation, and by engaging people briefly in passing with the intent that when you meet their eyes, you will see beyond their form into their essence.
Try this: Begin by gazing into the other person’s left eye. Use a soft gaze. This is not a staring contest. It is ok to change eyes if you feel called too. Just relax, breathe and allow the experience to unfold. Don’t try to look into both eyes at once. Notice what arises without judging it. Do this for as long as you want. I suggest beginning with two to five minutes of eye gazing. Then close your eyes go inside and connect with yourself. Then open your eyes and begin again. (Extend the time as you get more comfortable with the process.) Afterwards discuss your experience.
This is a great way to discover how open you are and to see where resistance arises. See if you can allow the resistance to melt. How does it feel to be seen? How does it feel to look deeply into another person? This is a great practice for developing a deeper heart connection.
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