If I am going act like a goddess, I want a man who acts like a god.
Yet all this talk lately of the goddess and the
Divine Feminine
seems like new-age wishful thinking, a fantasy archetype with as much
to do with real life as Superwoman or the Fairy God Mother.
While goddess propagandists promote the unilateral concept of a
spiritually elevated womanhood—strong but supple, decisive and
nurturing, wild yet wise—glaringly absent is a call to the
Sacred Masculine
counterpoint. Women can forever rally around each other, cheerleading
new heights of intuitive and open-hearted power, but without the
cooperation of menfolk stealing their own fire from the gods, we are
preaching to the
sistah choir.
Bottomline? Organizing a spiritual revolution as women without
inviting men to the front lines with us means we are orchestrating a
collective reframe with only half the available power. Real change means
humanity—yes both genders—opts for the cosmic upgrade to
Divine Class together.
So, on behalf of the X chromosome, here is my invitation to mortal men who wish to dance as gods with wanna-be goddesses.
1. Show us your heroic heart. We know you want to
save what is worth saving and to rescue this planet from peril. Wage a
hero’s battle against poverty, needless strife, environmental ruin or
whatever stirs your courageous heart. It might be a plan to increase
your neighborhood safety, to improve your child’s education, to plant a
vegetable garden in your backyard or to stop prejudice wherever you see
it. The world needs your brave heart to take bold action.
2. Unsheathe your sword. As
a man, you wield a sword of truth that can cut through cultural
distractions to what really matters. The faster car, the better sports
team, the bigger salary are all fine and dandy but on your deathbed,
what unfulfilled vision will you regret the most? What risk did you back
away from? What chance did you refuse to take? Before you die, be bold
enough to discover and live your truth.
3. Dare to dream. Before you played the role of
mortal, you (well, we) created the heavens and earth. What do you wish
to create here and now? What beautiful order do you wish to bring forth
from the chaos of this world. What implausible dream do you want to
manifest for the greater good of all? It doesn’t have to be grand, like
solving world hunger. It can be simple, like solving your child’s
homework problem because you are dedicated to being a
great father. All we care about is that
something brings you alive with passion.
4. Steer the ship. Aim your life for a noble
horizon. It’s not like there’s a second in command who will captain your
destiny while you snooze on the sofa after too many beers and potato
chips with the TV droning in the background. Get to the helm of your
life and navigate by your own pole star, the true north of your heart’s
burning desire. Tip: if you don’t know what port you’re headed for, no
wind is favorable.
5. Bring your soul to work. Work for more than the
mortgage and car payments—work because you find some measure of joy in
your job. And if the job is just to make ends meet for now, then meet
that employment with gratitude and a
call to service. Know that it’s not what you do, but what you bring to what you do, that matters.
6. Care deeply. As a man, you might have been taught
to feel lightly and think hard, to hold your emotions back, as if you
can build a dam against what naturally must flow. But your caring is
what this world cries for. The tender-hearted masculine is both wise and
merciful. When you weep, you give women permission to be strong. When
your heart breaks we want to know it so that we can heal it together.
7. Love fearlessly. Show us the way by standing firm
when we are in a beautiful rage. Don’t run from our fury—after all it
might contain magical wisdom. In the gale force of feminine anger, your
calm is a powerful reminder that we are met and accepted by our beloved
partner.
8. Ravish your woman. Every
now and then, take her wholeheartedly, without apology. Press her
against a wall and bind her with your kisses. Possess your goddess, oh
great god that you are, and then let her possess you. Polarity is a
potent nectar and the current runs both ways.
9. Slay your demons.
We all have them, the dark part of our hearts, the crevices where our
fear and loathing hideout. Notice what keeps you awake at night and
stalk it. Hunt your darkness and drag it into the light for loving and
healing.
10. Leave your mark. Don’t settle for a fleeting
cameo in which your appearance in this kingdom is so quickly forgotten.
What do you want your children to say about you? Your
great-grandchildren? The greatest legacy is not the wealth you leave
behind, but your heartfelt message that echoes forward to future
generations.
Ultimately, this dance of the divine in both genders is not about lighting incense, chanting at
kirtan, wearing white or even gathering in gender-specific goddess groups or men’s
Iron John style
movements designed to reclaim a lost chest-thumping masculine. Rather,
it’s about being real 360-degree humans, embracing both the sacred and
the mundane within ourselves and each other.
When men are willing to meet women heart-first and to live from that
divine place of kingly wisdom, warrior courage and boy-like
vulnerability, we women are given the gift of receiving
all of you. And we are given permission to reveal all of who we are—the nurturing goddess, the juicy seductress and yes, even the
nasty b*tch.
In the end, the call to a Divine Feminine and Sacred Masculine is
perhaps just the simple yearning to get out of our crazy-busy heads and
into our still-knowing hearts. As Rumi says, “I looked in Temples,
Churches and Mosques. I found the Divine in my heart.”
Whatever the divine really is, let’s find it together.
Lori Ann Lothian is the creator of the popular
The Awakened Dreamer
blog which hit the stands following an overnight Enlightenment Episode
that revolutionized her sex life and destroyed any chance at ever being
miserable again. Her newest blog creation,
Love Stripped Down
explores the "Naked Truth about Sex, Romance and Relationships" and the
possibility for enlightened love between the sexes. You can also find
her on
Twitter and
Facebook. Lori Ann lives in Vancouver, Canada, where she has learned to transcend the rain and surrender to mega doses of vitamin D.
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